blame it on me .

and another one. i see, i hear, i feel . . my perspective.

so there's this song: blame it on me by chrisette michelle ( love this woman; listen to her shit! ) basically i can understand where she's coming from in this song.


he tries to take the blame off of HIMSELF by blaming everything on HER. now this she's treating him right, doing for him, respecting him, loving him. . .just the whole fuckin nine yards, right ? but then she gets accused of being a liar, a cheater, or anything she could be accused of because he's in the wrong.

so the she gets worked up. she puts all of her energy trying to PROVE HER INNOCENCE because she's not doing anything wrong. . .but, that's the plan; that's exactly what he wants. he wants her to be frustrasted, annoyed, PISSED THE FUCK OFF because she isn't doing anything wrong. he wants to put the blame on her; take the focus off him.

but that's when she has to say FUCK IT. you know what? PUT THE BLAME ON ME. just "blame it on me. . .as long as it's over." but she's not a quitter. naw, she ain't no quitter. she just ain't got the time for fuckery, don't have time to deal with the bullshit anymore. she just ain't got the time to be to be the one who's mentally and emotionally drained because of some he's blaming her for the mistakes that he made.

you can say whatever you like
as long as we just say goodbye

blame it on me
say it’s my fault
say that i left you outside in the cold with a broken heart
i really don’t care
i ain’t cryin’ no more
say I’m a liar, a cheater say anything that you want
as long as it’s over

and when she knows she did all she possibly do, what else is there to possibly do?

kansas.

communication . . or lack of .

i see things, i hear things, and i feel things. i feel a certain way about certain situations . . and i hate when relationships end over something as stupid as lack of communication.

communication is supposedly a big factor in keeping a relationship going, right ? so why keep everything to yourself, knowing it could possibly jeopardize a relationship that you "wanted." if you feel a certain way about something your girlfriend has done . . or I S N ' T doing, then nigga. . .SPEAK UP! don't bit your tongue, biting your tongue is painful and i know you'on want that feeling. but seriously, all sarcasm aside. if there's something needed to be said in order to keep your relationship going, then don't hold back. let her know.

and yea it may be hard to tell her how you're feeling but think about it like this. if it's something that you want--if SHE'S the one that you want--then you got to do what you have to do to keep her. you can't have her trying her hardest with you when you not trying with her. she can't put in 50 while you're putting in 25; cause i swear, that equation don't add up. 50 plus 25 DOES not equal 100. AND THEN ( Lord have mercy ) don't run off to the next female because you think it's easier than confronting the problems in your relationship. that shit is low, disrespectful, and obviously immature because you apparently aren't man enough to handle situations with the person you supposedly wanted to be with.

idk. that shit really blows my mind. like i can't grasp the concept . . guys make the simplest things seem so complicated. like their mind set is stuck on "communication is equal to sensitivity. masculinity is NOT equal to sensitivity. therefore; IF it has to do with communicating, THEN it ain't happening!"

but hey, maybe i'm wrong. maybe it's another reason why guys have a hard time communicating. but shit, if you want it to work you better build a bridge and get over that shit. better write a fucking letter or SOMETHING. it's really not as hard as it seems.

kansas.